Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Alchemy











Change is all around me, outside and inside. Berries and leaves, sunsets and stormy skies. My children are bigger than they were just last week, I think. They run, jump and shout. They eat and eat. They chase the chickens. They chase each other. I chase them, catch them and tickle them. I teach them and feed them. They are my favorite job.

I'm adjusting to my new role as mom-of-big-kids. They go to school four mornings a week, and I have all that time to myself. I've been doing housework and errands some days, but I'm making time to just be - something I'd been craving for years. There's nothing like reading a book in morning sunlight. I'd forgotten about that. I'm doing it again, sometimes, reminding myself that there's still a me inside. I like to be alone, and have rarely felt lonely. There's always something to do and they're back home soon enough for lunch and homeschool time.

Lately, I've felt even more driven to foster a peaceful and happy home. It's my goal in life, really. It's the goal of this blog too. Being here makes me feel good. It helps me focus on the good things in my life and try to let go of the negative ones, especially other people's problems and choices. I will probably always struggle with this, and I've written about it before; this is not a new challenge for me. But my attitude is changing lately: I feel tougher, less susceptible. I feel more centered and confident. I can't make other people's problems go away, not even if I lie awake all night long worrying about them (ask me how I know). But I can choose my reactions. I can choose to be happy anyway.

36 comments:

  1. What a lovely, touching post. I'm loving my girls being two and four right now but I do look forward to when they're a bit older and they can entertain thwmselves for longer and I can have that bit of time just for me and be me. And thanks for reminding me I don't have to let other people's opinions affect me and that I can choose to be happy instead. x

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  2. A beautiful post, you should just be you and not worry about other peoples opinions too much. Truly beautiful photos.

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  3. A wonderful post Jennifer. Beautiful photographs too. I hope you're enjoying those snatched moments of alone time. Sometimes it can be just what you need!

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  4. My attitude and yours seem to walk together into this autumn. The only difference is that my youngest still doesn't go to school..so no reading in the morning light for me :( But he's such a good company!

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  5. It passes far too quickly, but each stage brings new joys. Enjoy your time rediscovering simple pleasures xx

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  6. Such a positive happy post Jennifer, I always love reading your words when you think about life and how you would like it to be. I think you are succeeding well in creating a peaceful and happy home, and it certainly comes across on your blog. I'm glad you're enjoying the little extra time you have to yourself. CJ xx

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  7. Beautiful pics and a lovely, thoughtful & peaceful post. Embrace and enjoy these changes,
    Hugs xx

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  8. Good choice, my friend. You're absolutely right about lying awake all night worrying about other people - ask me how I know! It's nice to come here and connect with that peace. Thanks Jennifer. xxx

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  9. I've been awake a lot recently and it's always someone else's problems/choices that have been going around my head. I try to put them in a box but they keep sneaking out in the middle of the night when there's nothing else going on to block them. Maybe I need to try and be a more more selfish - at least then I might get some sleep! Another great thought-provoking post, Jennifer. :o)

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  10. i'm glad you are finding some peace and quiet Jennifer, enjoy those moments while you can. Lovely photo's :) xxx

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  11. I'm nodding vigorously in agreement with you so many points. I'me working to create more peace, serenity, and relaxation in my world right now, which is no easy task in the face of the many wonderful changes that have taken place in it this year. I simply must though, or else I know my health will start to seriously pay the consequences for pushing myself so hard for too long.

    Here's to the hope that we both continue to be able to do just that as 2014 winds down.

    ♥ Jessica

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  12. Great post Jennifer and it sounds like it's not just your children who are growing. I love the peace and centredness of your post. Keep on keeping on!

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  13. Such a great post, Jennifer. I'm glad to hear you are finding peace and choosing to be happy!

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  14. Fostering a happy home! I love that! Isn't that just the best thing there is?!? Your pictures are gorgeous by the way! And it is hard at times not to let things trickle in but feeling tougher is such an awesome thing! Bravo to you and to your space here!

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  15. A happy home. When your children are grown you will know exactly how wonderful that was for them, (and you). You are such a good Mama and it's important to be YOU too!
    Blessings,
    Betsy

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  16. You know Jennifer, I think I tend to be a Pollyanna usually, and I choose to see that as a positive more than a negative, although I have heard some use the name as a slur. I surely want to do what I can to make the world a better more peaceful place, but I like you I realize I can not control others. [It is a challenge to positively control myself :) ] I think I embrace the message of the song lyrics, "Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me." I am so glad that you are embracing peace, and I thank you for encouraging my peace through this good post. xx

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  17. Fostering a peaceful home is the only way to foster a peaceful world. If we all created a haven to return to, we could all step out in confidence. I hope your Me time is still going well and that you remember how precious reading mid morning is all year round!

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  18. I'll remember that post next time I feel unmotivated and sad. It is lovely to see you find your own self Jennifer. Cx

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  19. All mothers need time for themselves, to simply be... to meditate, daydream, read, snooze, whatever takes your fancy. It seems to me, from the wisdom of age and hindsight, that too many mothers feel guilty if they do take time out for themselves, feel they should be doing this or that. It will wait. Be you. Everyone else is taken.

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  20. A lovely post, Jennifer. 'Fostering a peaceful home' is a wonderful thing to do and way to spend your life. I'm glad you are now able to be quiet and enjoy some well deserved 'me' time too. Wishing you a happy week.
    Helen xox

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  21. A lot of how we feel is down to making the choice to be happy and content with things no matter what way they are or to be the opposite.

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  22. Well that all sounds very lovely........you just enjoy it Jennifer!

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  23. I think blogs are a great way to appreciate the good things in life. Writing what makes you happy, or the good things that have happened lately or the wonderful things you've noticed around you, help you to focus on the positives and I don't think the negatives seem quite so bad then.

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  24. Absolutely beautiful shots! It's hard to let go of worry, but as you say, it does you no good, I wish you well in your journey to just being. x

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  25. Amen to that sister! I'm thrilled at the finding of you, the time to read in the sunshine, the joy of raising your fabulous kids, those beautiful pictures and the peace and harmony. These are good times, my friend.
    Leanne xx

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  26. I'm a terrible worrier. Always have been, ever since childhood. It can be quite debilitating. I worry about how people perceive me, the state of the world, my family coming to harm, money... everything, really.
    I don't watch the news or read the papers with their scare-mongering headlines. I live within my means. I take care of my family, their health and wellbeing. I tell myself that I'm good enough - I have integrity, intelligence, creativity. I'm a good friend, mother, partner.
    Still I worry.
    But there are things which help: rest, walking, cooking, writing. Losing yourself in things which absorb you. Delighting in the little, simple pleasures life presents you with every day. Avoiding negative situations and people (as best as you can).
    I hope you continue to feel strong. It's a great thing - nurture it :)
    Sarah x
    P.S. I love those leaf prints!

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  27. You are a strong, capable, loving woman and you are doing a great job. Always remember that. I wont say don't worry, because I know well that's impossible and not something you can just switch off, but make sure you put yourself first. Take care. x

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  28. I think alone time recharges your batteries so you can be strong. Also as your kids get older you are able to really talk to them and deal with them on a whole different level, now teenagers.......well that is another story. You are strong, capable and the best of mom's never ever doubt that.
    Hugs,
    Meredith

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  29. I just love how you grow and adapt to your children growing and changing. You kids are just adorable. I remember well that just when I thought I had the kids all figured out.. they'd change and I had to figure them out again. You'll be doing that for the rest of their lives! ((hugs)), Teresa :-)

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  30. What a lovely post, Jennifer! And such beautiful pictures! Enjoy your new phase in life, it is a time for your children to grow (outside the home in school) but also a new opportunity for you to grow, to be you and do the things you enjoy!!!
    Ingrid xx
    http://myfunkycrochet.blogspot.be

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  31. Just after my third child was born, my mother told me I that really needed to put my family first. Not in a bossy way, she didn't mean that I'd neglected them up to that point, just that I had got so caught up with other people's problems and was using up my energy on worrying about stuff instead of accepting that there are things that I cannot change. She was right and I have to remind myself to take a step back sometimes. Good for you for choosing to be happy and a timely reminder for me! X

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  32. So true Jennifer, sometimes you just have to let go of those negative things around you and do what you can to stay happy. I am easily brought down by things, and people, but I have to make a big effort to stay focused on the positive things. It's not easy sometimes. But, like you, as time goes on, I am growing stronger and finding it easier to 'let go' of the things that weigh me down. Enjoy the time to yourself, you deserve it! You have the loveliest family, Jennifer, and you do a wonderful job to create a happy home. Happy Friday to you! :)

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  33. Yes, it's a wonderful realisation isn't it: that we can choose our reactions. Lovely post, Jennifer; it so resonates with me. xxx

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  34. I do enjoy life more when I stay positive and I also strive to make my life and my home a positive place ... I'm happy for you and that you feel your life is so complete.

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  35. Your pictures look so peaceful and happy. I too find it easy to take on other peoples problems. Glad you am able to be stronger Sarah x

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  36. A lovely post, Jennifer - words and images melding to show your growing serenity and sense of achievement in your peaceful and happy home and family.

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