Friday, March 8, 2019

For now...


Hello, friends. It's been a while since I've blogged and I just wanted to let you know that I'm doing fine. We're all fine here, just starting our spring break from school and finally slowing down a little bit after a hectic couple of months. I'm looking forward to doing very little over the coming week!

I know my blogging has become sporadic lately, especially since the start of this year. To be very honest, I'm feeling burned out with blogging right now and I'm not sure what I want to do. Life has changed somewhat in the past couple of years, as my kids get older and we get busier with everything they want to do. I miss the days when I was home more, focusing on homemaking and crafting. I'm still home a lot, but my home time is more taken up with school stuff than it used to be, so I'm not doing as much of the blissful home-loving I used to do. That was also more fun to blog about than my current life, which feels like it's mostly lived in my car. But that's the way it is when kids get older, I think; gone are the days when they were happy to stay home day after day. Now they need rides and have all sorts of activities going on, and I'm okay with that. They're growing up to be interesting, independent people, which makes me really proud.

So I may need to think about changing my blog a bit if I'm going to continue. I would like to, but I'm not sure which direction to go. I think working on my writing might be a good idea, just because I enjoy writing and I think that I occasionally have something to say.

One thing that I will be changing is my focus on recipes. I'm sorry. Our household has recently undergone a major change in the way we eat, to support the Bear in a health diagnosis he received in late 2017. I'm no longer cooking the way I used to. I have shared a few things here that I have made in my new cooking style and have experienced an unfortunate response - messages from people who do not approve or agree with what I'm doing and who feel they know better. Maybe they do; I've never pretended to be a culinary or dietary expert. But we have done our research and are acting on solid medical advice. I'll just say this: it's difficult enough to experience a medical diagnosis, and to change everything I knew and loved about cooking, without feeling like I have to justify our choices. So recipes may become a rarer thing on my blog. I don't like having to make that decision, but I don't want to explain myself anymore either.

I've also been having a lot of technical problems with my blog these past few months. Since the autumn, I've been unable to link to previous posts on my own blog - every time I create a link, it just goes to the post I've put the link in. That's very frustrating and I'm getting a bit tired of it. I'm also having trouble uploading photos, which already felt like a time-consuming process when it worked; many times lately, they just get lost in the process and I have to go back and do it all over again. And then there's commenting: several people have reported that they can no longer leave comments on my blog posts (and bless them, they still make an effort to email me anyway, these lovely people). I didn't feel overly concerned (maybe it was just a weird glitch that would go away) until it started happening to me too, about a month ago. I don't know what would cause this issue, but I'm very sorry that it happens to people who want to comment here. I've combed through the Help forum and seen a few suggestions, but nothing has worked for me so far. All of this to say that I may need to think about moving my blog to some other platform, which is exciting (new look! new features!) but very daunting at the same time (what if I lose the entire thing?) It's a lot to think about.

So this probably isn't goodbye, but I feel I need to recoup my blogging energy (mojo, if you will). I need to think about whether my focus should shift a bit, now that I'm raising older kids whose lives are changing (one of whom seems less interested in having his life shared here lately, which is totally fair and something I need to respect), and with my technical issues, I just kind of dread trying to get a post up. I've enjoy blogging here very much and I'm so thankful for all of you who have been kind, supportive and friendly for all these six-plus (!) years since I first sat down and typed up a few blurbs about myself (I'd link you to my first little post, but alas...) I hope all of you are well and enjoying the first little touches of spring (or autumn!) where you are. Take care, my friends.

27 comments:

  1. What a coincidence, I was just typing an email to you (I'll send it later). I am so glad you are ok, and your family is, too. I understand how it becomes more difficult to find something you enjoy writing about as the children grow up and your focus of daily activities shifts. I feel the same really but I do really enjoy the friendships I have found over the years of blogging and this keeps me going. I enjoy writing ...ing posts most of all. A couple of sentences about anything that pops into my head without committing to anything in particular.

    I hope you feel disheartened to write about your cooking, I always enjoy reading about what you make for your family. It is a shame that some people feel it is ok to patronise you. It is your life and only you and your family get to decide what is good for you.

    I very much hope you continue blogging, I feel right at home here at Thistlebear Home :-)

    Lots of love, Christina xx

    P.S. Blogger is such a pain. I really don't know why Google doesn't put more effort into their platform.

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  2. I’m happy to hear that you guys are doing well! I agree with Christina, and I really do hope you continue to blog! I’ve always loved visiting here and feel that we have a lot in common, and also, daughters that are the same age.

    I’d really love to hear more about what you’re cooking these days, as well.

    You are a dear blog friend and I’ve been following your blog for at least five years now, I believe. It’s such a happy place to visit! Take care, my friend.

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  3. I am so sorry that you have encountered such difficulties with your blog. I am really sorry that you have had to deal with judgmental people. I love your blog and have followed you for quite some time now, so, selfishly I hope you continue... maybe on a lesser scale?? ((hugs))

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  4. You have been missed, I was wondering how you were doing. So it is good to know all is well. I did miss the Winter link up this year, something I always enjoyed. Such a shame that you are having difficulties with Blogger, I keep reading others are having issues too. Take care.

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  5. I have missed you.
    Sorry about the troubles you have had.
    I have heard of people having trouble commenting on blogs.
    I hope you are able to continue blogging in some aspect.
    We will be reading! : )

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  6. Dear Jennifer, you do what you need to. And those who have been unkind about your choices will just have to find someone else to bother. We will be here to cheer you on and enjoy whatever you decide to do.
    Chin up girl. There are a bunch of us out here rooting for you!

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  7. Jennifer, so lovely to see a post from you, I was just thinking about you yesterday and this morning I opened my computer to see if you'd posted lately and to send you an email and lo and behold, here you are. Life does change doesn't it, I've found the same thing. I'm so sorry you've had unhelpful comments about recipes, that's not good at all. I've always loved the things you make and I know your family's wellbeing is always at the front of your mind, so I can't imagine why anyone would say anything negative. I've also had blog problems, with photos and with commenting on a handful of other blogs - but not yours funnily enough. It's all frustrating, I agree. I'm sending you my good wishes, and if you keep blogging I shall always look forward to reading your posts. Take care of yourself my friend. CJ xx

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  8. I love reading your posts...they are about you and your world. I feel so lucky that you share your thoughts and ideas. Take care and please continue when you feel able. Liz

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  9. Lovely to hear from you Jennifer and I'm glad all is well with you and your family. I think we all reach a point in our blogging experience when we reach saturation point and it's not as much fun anymore. Trying to find new things to write about isn't easy nor are the technical difficulties that always seem to occur at some point or other. Sadly most of my blogging friends have stopped and seemed to have moved to Instagram. I hardly blogged at all last year and now am trying to post once a week mostly to share new patterns I have designed or found on the web. Good luck with whatever you decide to do and have a great weekend. xx

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  10. Will miss you. I only read 5 blogs and yours has always been a nice surprise when I noticed a new post.
    Go well. Do what you feel happy to do. You are the captain of your ship - but, if in future, you invite us back on board, I'll be very happy to receive the invite and will be gayly traipsing along again!

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  11. Life changes and ebbs and you have to go with the flow. If blogging isn't feeling right to you right now, then so be it. Maybe you're being called to just privately journal. Or maybe you just want to blog once a month or so. Whatever YOU decide to do, it's all good.

    I can understand your son's need and want for privacy online. I read a couple of articles recently where it was saying that today's kids are growing up with their entire lives online (because of their parents posting everything they say and do on FB, Instagram, etc) and they don't even know it until a certain age. And they don't like it. Can't say I blame them. I do have to say though, that you've always been very discretionary when it comes to your kids and putting their lives on your blog. I think you had the perfect balance.

    I know that you had been posting some healthier recipes lately and I don't understand why anyone would have a "problem" with that. You and your husband are smart people; I'm sure you've done your research on what kinds of foods are healthy and best for his particular condition. Though I have to say, I wouldn't rely too much on nutrition/food advice from MDs; we have friends in the medical field and they even admit that they barely have basic knowledge when it comes to that. That they took like one semester of nutrition in medical school. You truly have to be your own advocate.

    Blogging problems...I've heard other bloggers saying that they're having problems, too. Have you tried changing your browser?

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  12. It's good to hear from you and I'm sorry you are dealing with all these troubles. I know others are having trouble with blogger too and I hope it gets resolved. I'm very sad that some have questioned your recipes and what you are doing for your family. It's not their business, and if they knew you at all, they should know that you always are looking to do the best to care for your family.
    Hope to see you back here again!

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  13. Dear Jennifer, it is always a treat to see your Blog posts. Times change, and families grow and have different wants and needs, and I think we become busier than ever as the kids get older. So sad to hear people have criticized you, and about healthy recipes, for goodness sake. Social media can be a nightmare, and that includes the crazy behaviour of Blogger. Do what feels right for you, and know that I will be your happy follower whatever you do :)

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  14. I have really missed you Jennifer. I love visiting here but I understand what you are saying. Maybe you could just scale it down for your own enjoyment and write a post a month to catch up with everyone and all your happenings. I have found that I am writing a post a week but some weeks it feels like I could write more and others I have nothing to say - it is totally normal. I like writing ...ing posts as Christina has mentioned because it can include a bit of cooking, family, weather, crafting etc. I hope you find a happy place. All my love Jo xxxx

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  15. Happy Sunday Jennifer! It’s good to see your post today. I took a couple of days away from the internet, just because I felt the need to, and it was great to see your post pop up when I turned the computer on this afternoon. However, I was SO VERY sorry to hear you have had issues with some people and criticism. I just don’t understand why the relative anonymity of the Internet makes people feel like they have the right to be so critical of others and their choices. I have never had anything except admiration for you and the sweet family that you and the Bear are raising.
    I thought your reoipes looked wonderful and have tried a few myself. All of that being said, of course you must do exactly what you and your husband feel is best for your family. I hope you will pop back in here for a hello now and then but I truly understand if you decide to stay offline for awhile.
    I’m one of those with the commenting issue, (among other blogger things like you described). I just email and that seems to work okay. And once in a great while, it will actually let me comment on the blog itself.
    Wishing you, the Bear and the little Bears a wonderful spring. We’ll be here when ever you can visit us.
    Blessings always,
    Betsy

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  16. Hello! It's lovely to see a post from you, I've often wondered how you are and what you're doing. I'm sorry about the technical issues and even more sorry about the comments re diet. I know we've discussed this before, but I'm always amazed by how free some people are with their opinions online as they stomp all over someone's ideas or feelings.

    I sincerely hope you don't stop blogging. Perhaps your children won't feature so much here, and that's fine. Mine only do in passing, and with their permission . But I would miss those glimpses into your home and life. Take care. Xx

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  17. Jennifer, I enjoy reading your writing. I especially like the detailed descriptions of the places your family camps. We are always looking for good campgrounds in the west.
    My husband's diet has also been restricted by his Dr. I have also had the "well meaning" (?) commentary from people about his new diet. Like you, we opt to follow the surgeon's advice. And I quote "follow this diet because I don't want to have to take you to surgery at 3am one day to save your life."

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  18. Sorry not to have commented sooner, just having a catch up of my favourite blogs today. When you have things going on in your life, thoughtless people can really get under your skin, cant they! Well they can jolly well Get Lost! Please carry on and don't change a thing...

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  19. Life change and one must do what one has to. I really like your crafts and recipes. I appreciate all the work you put into the blog. Whatever you do never place your blog with bloglovin. I got bad sites looking at every page of my blog. I have baby granddaughter's photo in the blog. I have deleted all the pages. I went to bloglovin and there they have all the pages intact available for anyone. In another words they still your blog. Hope your husband is feeling better. Hope you continue to blog!

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  20. Jennifer, I am trying to catch up with your news in the midst of catching up on all the changes in my life :) I am so glad that over the years we have found we have common interests to share and I hope we both can keep blogging even as our life experiences continue to change. Bravo on completing your beautiful blanket and in your wanted weight loss over the last year. I have lost nearly as much as well, but still have about that much more to lose. I am sorry for the unhelpful comments you have received and for the technical difficulties you have experienced in blogging. I have found tech issues to be daunting as well. Wishing happy days for you and yours. xx

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  21. Jennifer, it's lovely to hear how you are doing and I have missed your posts. It's a shame that there are a few people who are thoughtless and critical. I understand your need to protect the privacy of your children, although I have always felt that you have been quite sensitive to that. I will miss your crafting and recipe posts, and especially the ones about your camping trips. I am from New England and the contrast between your region and ours is striking.
    Wishing you the best.

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  22. Hi Jennifer, good to hear from you in blogland. I'm feeling sad that we'll hear less from you but do totally understand that you must put your family first. I've enjoyed reading your blog, though I'm late to blogging myself. I hope ypu decide to keep blogging, I find myself taking frequent breaks too, not intentionally, just get busy or maybe busy doing not alot worth blogging about.
    Sorry you've encountered technical issues and keyboard warriors that 'have to say' what they think. Take care and best wishes, sending love, Cathy x

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  23. Just popping back around to see how things are going for you and yours.
    Sandy's Space

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  24. Hi Jennifer, It's been even longer for my blogging posts, and I'm not sure I will return. I just popped onto my blog to look something up and got a little distracted to see everyone else's posts. I'm glad to hear you and your family are all doing well. I have to admit that I really do miss the friendships I've made through blogging for the past few years. We're all like old friends moving on with different things. I hope your diet/cooking change is working improvements with your family. I have made some big changes in my own diet that past few months, and feel so much better. Whatever path you choose, I know you will make the right choice for you. It was nice to read this little update, but I'm afraid I won't be around in blogland to keep up to date with everyone anymore. Take care, my friend, and best of luck and happiness in the future :)
    Wendy xox

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  25. Thought I'd pop in just once more to see how things are. Sing out if you get back to blogging so we can re-connect.
    Sandy's Space

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